Last week after my second date I was hanging out with my sister and we were talking about stuff just hanging out. The topic of conservative Christianity came up and my sis said she hates the fundamentalists and has pretty liberal views compared to them. So I asked what were her views. She said that she doesn't think someone is going to hell if they're gay... she said that the hate towards gay people, among others is wrong.
So I decided to come out to her. I just told her I was gay. She was really cool about it and said she was glad that I told her. She hugged me and nothing changed.
I'm starting to think that this whole coming out thing was easier than I made it out to be. I'm kinda determined to come out to more people in my life because in the end it will only make me a happier and better person. Sure my dad didn't fully react the way I would have liked him to, but I don't think that means everyone is going to react that way...
The sooner I come out to everyone the more authentic I will feel and the sooner I can start living a good life.
That being said I really wanna come out to Aaron next week.
Alright, I'm over and out
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5 years ago
4 comments:
Jordan,
Coming out to your family and friends does not necessarily make life easier (that's my experience)but it does allow for those close in your life to better understand you. I found that some of my family and friends already had me figured out before I did!!! Why didn't they tell me!!! LOL.
As for dating, don't get hung up on one guy. There's a ton of fish in the sea and the right one is out there for you. Have fun, don't take it seriously.
Nick
The big thing about coming out, and it sounds like you're beginning to reap the benefit, is that you can be honest. For possibly the first time in your life you don't have to pretend to be someone you are not.
People will still ask if you fancy that girl and all you need to do is to look at them. It'll be they who blush and look all embarrassed because it'll mean they've forgotten what you've told them.
Honestly, although many gay guys who are in the closet will blow 'coming out' up into a bit ogre thing - it doesn't have to be.
Sure - most of us would rather our dad had reacted better - but many men are a bit scared (very secretly) about their own sexuality and a gay son ratchets up those insecure feelings.
I think it's a good notion to basically think of people as being bisexual - with many being exclusively heterosexual and some being exclusively gay.
Many could go either way - but it's the pressures on procreation, the survival of the human species (from where fundamentalist religious teaching comes of course) and the whole of society which has been organised for heterosexual people since time immemorial.
Part of what gay liberation has to do is to question that (women generally want to question it as far as questioning heterosexual men and their perceived dominant role) but our job is to question it a bit further that.
We have to say 'society should be organised for you AND for me!
And I'm gay!"
Coming out is not a big deal. I don't know why I made it out to be that way but its pretty damn easy (most times, there are times when I still get a little emo...) lol
Its also fun once you see people's reactions that are like "What!" hahaha
Cheers! I told my (younger) brother ~1 year ago. We became *closer* after that.
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